It’s a theme I notice a lot: trans* people being happy to be insulted, so long as it’s in the correct gender.
Maybe this is controversial, but I dislike that.
I understand why, or at least, I think I do. It can be an easy way of diffusing a comment; ‘yeah, you think you insulted me, but jokes on you, because you gendered me right.’ Or simply the sheer giddiness of being gendered correctly outweighs any potential hurt.
I just can’t believe that makes it ok.
A misogynistic slur doesn’t become ok just because it was directed towards a trans-woman. It’s not ok to be insulted because you’re trans*. It’s not ok to ignore the societal implications of an insult just because of a warm fuzzy feeling.
I think it’s a very sad thing when someone can be happy to be insulted like that. Everyone should be validated in their gender, so that no one has to feel like this.